What I Think Love Is

I believe I have been in love only one time in my life. I should be thankful I have actually had that experience.

I think maybe the initial thrill of falling in love is so intense that it might HAVE to change. I’m not sure that that intensity can last forever, so there’d better be something there after that initial thrill subsides. Maybe that is where communication and commitment come in. Mutual respect is a given.

I think being in love is wanting to share yourself TOTALLY - being completely open with that person - TOTAL trust and acceptance. It is sharing your opinions, values, dreams, desires, fantasies, fears, and insecurities, with no fear of ridicule – within the safety of knowing you are loved and accepted unconditionally; being totally vulnernable yet completely content in all-encompassing mutual love.

I think being in love involves TOTAL acceptance of that person – including accepting flaws, differences and differences of opinion, weaknesses, idiosyncrasies, quirks, faults, and all – without ridicule and maybe even cherishing them.

I think it is the desire to care for, share with, accept, protect, support, cherish, comfort, confide in, make love with, cry with, laugh with, tease lovingly, kid with and feel comfortable doing everything and nothing together. I believe it is the yearning to spend the rest of your lives together. Being with that person makes EVERYTHING seem right.

I wonder if this is all just a fantasy to want this or to think that I might find this and actually experience living in love someday.